My husband claims he has not received the notices

We often get asked this question, “My husband claims he has not received the notices therefore the khula or faskh is not valid”, this is commonly misunderstood by Muslims today.

The Sharia Council takes every effort to make sure the notices are sent out in a timely fashion and by email and by post but not just once or twice but 3 times around 4 weeks apart, denying receipt is not befitting for a Muslim after all it’s our character that makes us Muslim not our names.

Firstly we must never lie as the Prophet SAW said that my Ummah will commit every sin but my ummah will never lie.

The reality today is that we are the first to lie and yet we still claim to be the ummatti (People Of) Nabi SAW.

No one can accept that the 3 notices have been sent and not a single one was received, therefore after the process has been completed from our side and if the applicant still wishes to proceed with the Khula – Faskh, then it will be issued and the nikah will be dissolved.

We ask our communities to hold fast to the rope of Allah SWT and be not divided and try your level best to maintain your marriages with honour, sincerity, honesty, loyalty, respect and dignity, this is a sacred contract that Allah SWT has bestowed upon you both and it is not to be taken lightly, we must try everything in our power to maintain the nikah.

We need to try and make sure that our affairs do not leave the 4 walls of our houses and generally when they do its already too late.

Especially today where we have sisters complaining almost every single day of Violence against them, Financial Abuse, no love and empathy towards them, gambling, drinking affairs and adultery.

These are behaviours that are unacceptable in this sacred relationship (Nikah) and the sister has every right to walk away from the relationship.

For the men who read this, how would you like your sister or daughter or mother to be treated like the way that you are treating your wife?

We need to learn and study the deen of Allah SWT and not the Deen of our communities because they are 2 totally different deens.

The Prophet SAW said “the best of you are the ones who are the best to their wives & families”

This short statement sums up everything, treat your women with love, respect, dignity and honour, if you cannot do this then let them go with kindness (do not wash your linen in public, no slandering and backbiting). This way they would never need to approach a ghair mahram to apply for a khula or faskh.